Confession: Save the drama for yo' mama was one of my favorite things to say in high school.
Much like Don't hate! and Talk to the hand, it was an expression I blurted at every opportunity hoping to be instantly hip and ultimately cool. But these phrases - and words like hip and cool - inevitably go out of style.
It's a shame really, because, at its core, the message was great: your drama is childish.
For all the new terms Facebook has brought us - poke, friend request, unfriend, like, dislike, inbox, wall post - it has brought back at least one old one as well: DRAMA.
So, here are 15 ways to avoid Facebook drama:
1. Think before you post
2. Don't share everything. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
3. Never post when you are angry. It sounds great at the time, but you'll regret it later.
4. Don't post something for everyone to see that is really meant for just one person to see. If you have something to say to an individual, have the guts to call, email, or message that person directly.
5. If you're tired of seeing someone else's trash, but "unfriending" them would only add to the drama, simply "hide" them from your news feed.
6. Get over yourself. Don't assume that post or update was about you.
7. Learn to be happy for other people. Their success doesn't make you a failure, and their failure doesn't make you a success
8. Forgive people who have hurt you. Jesus' example and command applies even in a Facebook world
9. Stop trying to convince people that you are happy, just go be happy.
10. Don't lie, embellish or manipulate through your status updates
11. Become a person who encourages others
12. Send more inboxes and fewer wall posts
13. Exercise wisdom in what friend requests you accept
14. Grow up
15. Spend less time on Facebook
Facebook is a social networking site. It is great for saying hi, sharing pictures, posting stupid videos and making announcements. That's about it. It's not a middle school cafeteria, a Lifetime Movie of the Week, or an intervention.
Strife is strife. Anger is anger. Bitterness is bitterness. Lol, hahaha, hehehe, or :) doesn't change that.
(originally posted July 14, 2010)
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